Blessings to each of you! Happy 2007!
Hope everyone had a great Christmas season. Now it is back to reality!
We took the tree down on Sunday afternoon. It is a big job but everyone pitched in. I got everything put away in the basement. We are working on laundry, washing sheets and getting our bedrooms organized a bit.
Have you made some new year resolutions?
I have made a few. One is stay on track with my new way of eating. It is now become so much of a lifestyle for me. It is a good way to start the new year. When I was married I hated New Years. I always felt 100% terrible about myself-basically I had very little self esteem. When I was married I never felt good about myself-ever. I hated holiday parties becasue I felt like I never measured up to what my husband wanted. Every New Years he would lecture me on my weight and how unattractive I was. It was miserable for me. I always wished I could live under a rock for about a week during the Holidays. I felt awful. Now that I am divorced- New Years is not as scary to me. Eating smaller amounts and all healthy is a great way to start the year. Truly I feel so good emotionally-it is a nice change.
I also have to pay myself first! I have to make that a habit for 2007. Saving is key. I have done well but I want to do a better job in 2007.
I want to try to find a way to make some extra money part time. I have to really open my mouth and tell people I am ready to look for something to do. I need to get the word out. I did tell my friend and she has offered to talk to her boss about a PT job at he nursing home she works at right down the street. Who knows?
I also promise to keep better track of my time. Hopefully that equates to some time to walk and excerise. I have to if I am to really get off the weight.
It is great to start a new year. This is the first year of doing my own taxes as well. I have never done a tax return, so I am looking "forward" to meeting my tax advisor. Time to get educated even more.
Also my son should be finalizing colleges. I have his graduation to look forward to in June.
My ex gets married on January 27th.
It will be good to January over with. I am not looking forward to all the "emotional stuff" that will more than likely occur. I will try to focus on ME and the kids all the positives going forward. My middle daughter has made some cards for her new step mommy. It still hurts and I am still wounded a bit. I am still learning to let go of the pain. Not always easy to be the "adult" and "grown up"!
Well enjoy and again ----Happy New Year!
Happy New Year!
January 1st, 2007 at 07:31 pm
January 1st, 2007 at 07:52 pm 1167681144
What would happen if you make a decision however hard to be happy for him in his new life? Paste a smile on and keep plowing ahead on taking care of you and your new exciting life!!
January 1st, 2007 at 08:01 pm 1167681683
Time heals and so far I am really trying to let it all go.
I am trying to see myself as happy, which I am and moving forward. I do not want to become the ex who is psycho! Maybe a tiny bit crazy that's all : )
Happy New Year!
January 1st, 2007 at 08:01 pm 1167681688
January 1st, 2007 at 08:03 pm 1167681790
we all know you are one fine lady. So there!
January 1st, 2007 at 08:06 pm 1167681965
Right now my pants I wore before hand are falling off me. I need to get some pants! I have a follow up on Jan 9th for a weigh in and blood work. I will be in the dr office for 2 hours they told. My scar has healed beautifully as well. So I am losing.....feels super! still feel yucky when I grocery shop as most food is not appealling.....! Can not drink diet pop either.....too sugary tasting.....which is weird to me. All in all NO complaints. Thanks for asking!
Happy New Year!
January 1st, 2007 at 08:08 pm 1167682092
Speaking of Buckeyes.....my son is flying out to the OSU game in Arizonia next Sunday. His father is taking him. He is one Blessed 17 yr old. He is super excited! Go Bucs!
January 1st, 2007 at 08:42 pm 1167684143
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January 1st, 2007 at 09:39 pm 1167687577
Look at the positive side!
If she actually is good to your kids, and they like her, that is great. Our kids can never have too many people who love them.
January 1st, 2007 at 09:53 pm 1167688380
My ex defends her and not my kids when ever there is a tiff or disagreement. That has been very hard on my kids. The loyality shift.
I have never even met her. My ex likes to have her keep her distance at all times. I think he is afraid I would run out of my front door and smack her with my Bible. Life sure is funny! Thanks again nance
January 1st, 2007 at 10:15 pm 1167689758
January 1st, 2007 at 10:39 pm 1167691194
The wife caught him in the act and filed for divorce. Her feelings were hurt but more so when she found he had a child with a woman he was running around with. My feeling is if you don't want to be with someone be honest and say so. I don't understnd why folks run around and hurt their spouses feelings.
My brother has been married three times alreay and he is only 42. I don't understand. I told him that as my brother I love him very much. Then I informed him that if he were not my brother I would not have him as a friend.
frontporchmom, You are a good person worthy of love and respect. You gave that man beautiful children and a nice home to come home to! He betrayed your trust and I think you are better off without him. You should never take mental abuse from anyone ever!!!!
Life can be beautiful and there are lovely people out there. I will keep you in my prayers.
As for your husband, he may find "having" is a whole different ball of wax from "wanting"! Some fellas never now how good they have it until they mess up!
Good luck with the weight loss and may the coming new year be filled with blessings and all things good!
January 2nd, 2007 at 01:21 am 1167700885
Congrats on the weight loss! I can't wait to see your progress over the following months!
I think it will be great if you pick up something part time, as long as it does'nt interfere with the kids. Have you checked at their school for a lunchroom helper or recess resource person? Or even a special needs helper. We have lots of these kind of part time jobs at our school and then you can be there with your kids and off when they are off. Just a thought!
January 2nd, 2007 at 05:14 am 1167714868
I would not want to be the new wife. She will spend the rest of her marriage wondering if he's running around on her whenever he calls to say he's working late or doing some other unscheduled thing. Once a cheater, pretty much always a cheater. Every excuse that she knows he gave to you, if he uses it, she'll doubt. You won't. You're the winner here.
January 2nd, 2007 at 05:19 am 1167715153
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