My Ex and I attended my older children's school concert last night. I loved it...it was really wonderful, but a bit on the long side. My Ex drove seperatly and left a few minutes before us to "beat the rush". I gathered up the four kids and we left soon after him. As we were driving home I saw the flashing lights down the road. It is near a turnpike so I thought maybe there was an accident. I slowed down to pass safely. I kept looking at the huge SUV and thought it looked like my ex's truck. Sure enough it was. My kids were shocked but again...sadly not surprised. I tried to act very Christian as best I could but in my mind I was sorta chuckling a bit. I told the kids that dad made a mistake and now he has to pay. He broke the rules.
I think he did see my big van drive by a bit slowly so I am sure he will get an earful tonight when he picks them all up to take them to dinner. I kept thinking "How would I feel if that was me" ?
It was hard to take the higher road in front of my kids...but I kept thinking about having those long range glasses on. I needed to act in a certain way and explain things in a manner that did not denegrate their father. It was very hard to do that. I am not a perfect person and at times I do say things that maybe push the envelope a bit. Part of me is still hurting and mourning my loss. I am human, Same with our finances. We sometimes spend and overspend and get in hot water. We mess up just when we were going great gangbusters in cleaning up a mess with our credit cards or our budgets. We are human and it is hard to always be on top of your game. When we fall and make a mistake we need to pick ourselves up and dust ourselves off. We need to pay our speeding ticket fine and begin to drive much more slowly, carefully and by all means,take the higher road.
Speeding ticket story
May 23rd, 2006 at 11:54 am
May 23rd, 2006 at 01:47 pm 1148392043
May 23rd, 2006 at 02:48 pm 1148395706
Have a lovely day!!
May 23rd, 2006 at 03:06 pm 1148396818
(Ok, you can THINK it...
Sooner than you think, those little guys will be adults themselves and they will see what a great example you set, and they will love mom even more for it!
May 23rd, 2006 at 03:16 pm 1148397407
Life can be hard enough when your parents divorce.......so my job is to be stable and secure, to take my job as mom seriously. My kids do not need a mother spinning her life out of control.
Enjoy your day!
May 23rd, 2006 at 03:23 pm 1148397799
May 23rd, 2006 at 04:01 pm 1148400097
It sure feels hard to go against the grain-but your right, my children will become adults soon enough. What I do today is so important.
Life is never fair but that does not give me the right to walk around bad mouthing. I just never want to be known to my kids as the angry, bitter crazy mother! Thank you again my friend for sharing.